The romantic is someone who adores the magic of raw, unadulterated love. They need to be courted and romanced in order to feel that “the spark” is still there. When this feeling fades away, they can grow unhappy quickly, and will start to question the love and dedication of their partner.

How to tell if your partner is the romantic type

A)    You’ll probably hear complaints along the lines of, “How come we never do things like we used to?” or “You used to wine me and dine me. Now all we do is sit at home every day.”

B)    He or she is into romance novels or romantic movies.

C)    He or she beams at the sight of young lovers or comments about other couples whenever you’re out, saying things like “Look at how he adores her” or “You see those two lovebirds sitting over there?” They seem to zero in on romance like a foxhound sniffing out game.

D)    They tell you stories that involve the words, “that’s so romantic.”

Tips for winning over the romantic type

A)    If you’re married, pretend that you’re not. Pretend that you are trying to woo your partner’s affection from another suitor or win her affections for the very first time. What might you do? Now do those things.

B)    Read a few romantic novels in order to get an idea of what might be romantic and then try to adapt some of these ideas to your own life.

C)    Remember that what might seem corny and over the top to you is likely to hit right on the sweet spot of your partner.

D)    Since this is usually a man problem, try asking your female friends for some ideas about what would be romantic. Your partner’s girlfriends often have a good idea of what she’s into.

Easy gestures that will please the romantic

1.    Surprise candlelight dinners at home.

2.    Thrilling or daring activities (skinny dipping in a lake, sex in your car or in the backyard, etc.) If it’s something exciting that you normally wouldn’t do, it’s likely to please the romantic. Just think: What would a couple of love struck teenagers do? Then try these things (within reason,
of course – don’t lose your head like a teenager).

3.    Dates to the theater, opera, or some other more formal experience.

4.    Show up at work unexpected and give her a flower or a box of chocolates.

5.    Sneak out at night and go park in the lake or in some other romantic spot.

6.    Deck the bedroom in flower petals for a romantic night.

7.    Give “thinking about you” cards.

8.    Place a little piece of chocolate with a note on top of their pillow or somewhere else around the house for them to find.

9.    Write them love notes or poems.